Tainted Love

“A Court of Mist and Fury” by Sarah J. Maas

In the first book I loved Feyre and Tamlin’s relationship. Looking back on it I can’t really say why. Reading this next installment I realized, right along with Feyre, how toxic that relationship was. When we’re young we see and are taught that some things are acceptable in relationships. None of those things were remotely okay. Feyre was blaming herself for the emotionally abusive relationship she was in. She just kept telling herself it was okay because Tam loved her. It is not, I repeat, not okay ever to be treated that way in a relationship. I don’t care about your shared traumatic past. It’s not okay ever.

Again never, it’s never okay. He could’ve very well loved her but his actions proved that it was a toxic love. He didn’t see her as a person with her own agency but his possession. SOMETHING he had to hold on to and keep on a shelf. I loved this book because it calls out this abusive behavior and Feyre saves herself. Rhys gives her the space away to figure it all out without intruding. He makes no decisions for her and leaves everything up to her even though all he wants to do is protect her. He knows that he can’t step in and be her hero because she is her own damn hero. Maas shows Feyre rescuing herself once again and realizing what love is. She figures out just because you share a past, familial or romantic or platonic, doesn’t mean you can’t cut those people out. You don’t have to stay with those who hurt you, ever. You can rescue your own damn self. Be your own hero.

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